My husband use to laugh at me daily because I always told him I never like to watch the news....
So you're probably wondering why start with that Beth? Well you see I wrote this post over a month ago now and I saved it because I just felt it was not the right time to share it.
So do you watch the news? I do not. well thats not true...I do but I hate it. The news today is not the new stations fault its ours and by ours I don't necessarily mean directly the people reading this but there are so many people responsible no one can even begin to point a finger...But thats my problem...STOP POINTING FINGERS aside from the thought that runs through my head that my great Aunt use to drill into me "Pointing is never polite." I constantly wonder what changed to make our world so sad? what changed that makes me scared to send my kids to school some day? why are people so full of anger and sadness that they feel they need to take it out on you or our children or me? I realize I am asking a lot of questions but its because I honestly do not understand. I watch the news and I am constantly in thought. WHY?
But the one thought I always come back to is "BE KIND."
How hard is that? We all have thought this at some point in our lives and I’m sure it’s happened more than once. Recently The thought crosses my mind daily. I’ve started following more people in the social media world and I have started to reach out and get to know more people in my community. As we all know putting your self out there is hard. Like really hard. But I’m glad when I do! Putting your self out there challenges you and gives me joy because I love meeting new people and experiencing their different walks of life.
So along with meeting new people or knowing a lot of people you begin to realize everyone truly does have their own battles and struggles.... I know I do! I like to read comments from others and I also love to see people encouraging other people it just reminds me that there really is good out there even when all seems so gloomy around me, but you know what really bothers me? Unkindness.... yes you read that right “Unkindness” it’s when unkind people start spreading their gloom and let me tell ya it catches like fire!!! It only takes one person sharing a negative comment or a negative perspective to completely change someone’s day.
Unkindness is contagious, I’ve been a victim and I decided no more. There is so much sad in this world but there is also so much life and love to share! Don’t get me wrong.... I know life is hard sometimes and I sincerely know what unkindness feels like but I just want to share KINDNESS.
Have you struggled with Unkindness? There’s a chance you have and don’t even realize it! That’s something that hit me straight in the face because why would people be unkind to me? What have I ever done to them? NOTHING that’s the problem. It took me crying on the phone with my mom last week to realize this! Sometimes I like to give people a chance, like maybe they don’t realize what their doing is unkind or maybe they are just having a bad day but then I came to this realization.... just because I’m having a bad day or someone else is does that give me the right to spread my contagious unkind sickness? No. That’s not fair or right. Obviously I cannot control other people’s actions but I can control who is in my environment.
So who do you let in your environment? Do you keep it close knit and only allow a few vetted friends into your inner circle? Do you chance it and pray people are kind (even though time has shown other wise). I’ve decided to limit. Limit myself and my “closeness” with others. I use to be a people person and I still hope I hold this value but I’m learning who my close friends are and who are just my friends. That’s hard! Why? Because I love people, my mom use to tell me all the time my biggest flaw is I love to easily... I’m serious y’all it is my biggest flaw. I’ve struggled for the longest time with it because I truly love people. Everyone is so different and so unique it’s intriguing to me and often leads me to what this entire post is about unkind but also kind people.
I have some of the best close knit friends. (Obviously I’m biased) they keep me grounded but also push me to be better. They encourage me, pray for me and fight this worlds battles with me and for all of that I’m so grateful.
So now you’re probably wondering... B what’s the point of this post? Well I guess it’s to encourage you. There is Unkindness out there but there is also kindness. There are hard times but sometimes they lead to good times.... don’t give up!
Find people who value what you value and spread kindness. Stop pointing fingers and take responsibility for your actions. This world has too much going on for all of us to be so unkind all the time....So be kind, find joy and let it spread.
Thanks for listening to my rant you guys,
Love,
-B
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